Love your family
To many from the world we live in, to love your family comes naturally. They love their parents, they love their children, their siblings, uncles, aunties, and so on. This is easy to do. Unfortunately, there are some who find this difficult. Some don’t love their parents and they have no respect for them.
The bible teaches that the family should be at a central place in society. The Christian is taught that children should faithfully be brought up and this process can unite parents in so much joy. Stability in a person’s life is bound up in the stability of sound family life.
Hear, my son, and accept my words, that the years of your life may be many. Proverbs 4:10
God intended that men and women should have children. The husband and wife should both be committed to serving God and also to raising godly children.
Did he not make them one, with a portion of the Spirit in their union? And what was the one God seeking? Godly offspring. So guard yourselves in your spirit, and let none of you be faithless to the wife of your youth. Malachi 2:15
When you look through the pages of the Bible, the Christian parents are encouraged to train, teach and instruct their children in God’s ways. The Israelites were told by God to keep his commandments in their hearts and minds. They were to also teach these commandments to their children. This is how we can show love to our children.
“You shall therefore lay up these words of mine in your heart and in your soul, and you shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. You shall teach them to your children, talking of them when you are sitting in your house, and when you are walking by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise.
As the children grew older it was important that they received the parent’s guidance and direction.
Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it. Proverbs 22:6
It is up to the parents through loving persistence, to give their children direction. The training of the child should be adapted to the capacity and temperament of each child. Their aim should be to encourage wise habits of thought and action.
My son, keep my words and treasure up my commandments with you; keep my commandments and live; keep my teaching as the apple of your eye; bind them on your fingers; write them on the tablet of your heart. Proverbs 7:3
These wise habits will hopefully equip the children to find their way in life with sureness.
Then you will walk on your way securely, and your foot will not stumble. Proverbs 3:23
But we must remember that even with the best training, wisdom will not automatically be added to a child’s character, it can only encourage the child to make the choice to seek it.
My son, if you receive my words and treasure up my commandments with you, making your ear attentive to wisdom and inclining your heart to understanding; yes, if you call out for insight and raise your voice for understanding, if you seek it like silver and search for it as for hidden treasures, then you will understand the fear of the Lord and find the knowledge of God. Proverbs 2:1-5
Fathers are urged by the apostle Paul to take responsibility for educating their children about God’s ways.
Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord. Ephesians 6:4
Parents should be good role models for their children. Their actions will speak louder than their words. Children will learn many things in life from observing how their parents behave and react to everyday situations. If the parents show a deep love of God and dependence on God, then the children will start to show this same dependence in their life.
This is a way the parents could show love to their children, by making sure they were brought up on the perfect laws of God. With knowledge and obedience to these laws, the children had a very good chance of making a success of their lives.
The Bible tells the Christian how they should treat their parents. It is one of the ten commandments:
“Honor your father and your mother, Exodus 20:12
This is different to the modern philosophy which encourages children to think independently of, and sometimes even to be in opposition to the counsel of the parents. An example of this mentality can be found in a English newspaper article:
Since the girls had read an article on “Dictating Daughters” they had been unbearable, and only insulted their father when he spoke to them. She [the mother] had told them that if they refused to obey their father they must leave home, as she intended to uphold his authority, but they were still at home and doing just as they liked. (Daily Mail newspaper)
The apostle Paul is very clear as to the correct relationship between parents and children.
Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. “Honor your father and mother” (this is the first commandment with a promise), “that it may go well with you and that you may live long in the land.” Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord. Ephesians 6:1-4
A father or mother is the natural instructor of youth. When children grow older they begin to realise what they derive from the sympathy and affection of their parents. They come to learn that parents have no reason for teaching them other than to ensure the best comes for their children.
When young people have disagreements with the parents, it will be ultimately themselves who will suffer from the distrust and disharmony in the home. For they are depriving themselves of the greatest support they may ever know during the years when they certainly need it most.
Husband and wife
To be a Christian, one must accept that there is only one husband for one wife. Polygamy is not allowed and can only put a strain on the loving relationship within a “marriage” when it exists. The love between a husband and wife is also put under extreme pressure when there is unfaithfulness. Adultery is a sin that can potentially keep a person from the kingdom promised by God (if it is not repented of). Divorce should not be thought about as a potential solution to any marital problems as it is a sin against the closest one of your friends and also against God.
Who forsakes the companion of her youth, and forgets the covenant of her God. Proverbs 2:17
The Bible teaches that the love between a husband and wife can be strengthened as they share the duties of children’s training. But it is important that they speak with one voice when teaching the children.
Hear, my son, your father's instruction, and forsake not your mother's teaching, Proverbs 1:8
The husband is urged to not just be loyal to his wife but also devoted and passionate. This can increase the love between husband and wife.
be ravished always with her love.
The husband should treat his wife with the utmost respect. Unfortunately, in some ancient civilisations, the wife was merely an item of property and a childbearer and not a companion. However, the Bible teaches that a good wife can lead to a good life for the husband.
He who finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favour from the Lord. Proverbs 18:22
A good wife is a favour given to a man by God.
Houses and riches are an inheritance from fathers, but a prudent wife is from the Lord. Proverbs 19:14
The wisdom from a good woman can be essential for the stability of family life.
The wise woman builds her house, but the foolish pulls it down with her hands. Proverbs 14:1
The wife who is capable, is a gift to a husband.
Who can find a virtuous wife?
For her worth is far above rubies. The heart of her husband safely trusts her; so he will have no lack of gain. She does him good and not evil all the days of her life. She seeks wool and flax, and willingly works with her hands. She is like the merchant ships, she brings her food from afar. She also rises while it is yet night, and provides food for her household, and a portion for her maidservants. She considers a field and buys it; from her profits she plants a vineyard. She girds herself with strength, and strengthens her arms. She perceives that her merchandise is good, and her lamp does not go out by night. She stretches out her hands to the distaff, and her hand holds the spindle.
She extends her hand to the poor, yes, she reaches out her hands to the needy.
She is not afraid of snow for her household, for all her household is clothed with scarlet. She makes tapestry for herself; her clothing is fine linen and purple. Her husband is known in the gates, when he sits among the elders of the land. She makes linen garments and sells them, And supplies sashes for the merchants. Strength and honour are her clothing; She shall rejoice in time to come.
She opens her mouth with wisdom, and on her tongue is the law of kindness. She watches over the ways of her household, and does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children rise up and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: “Many daughters have done well, but you excel them all.”
Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing, but a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised. Give her of the fruit of her hands, and let her own works praise her in the gates.
Love of the family is a central part of the message in the Bible. Love of parents, love of children, love of wife, love of husband, love of brother, love of sister.
The church is portrayed in the Bible as a family as well. The fellow believers attending that church are referred to as brothers and sisters. Of course they all have a common father – that father is God. He is a father who shows the greatest love of all for His children.
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Last Updated: Tuesday, 10 March 2015